KNOWING
WHO TO MARRY
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You don’t just have
to marry anybody, anyhow or from anywhere just because there is much pressure
from your family and friends. Knowing
the will of God is a serious issue in Christian marriage. Many Christians marry without knowing what the
will of God is for their marriage. I have heard people say that as long as you
do not marry an unbeliever, you have fulfilled the will of God for your
marriage. No wonder Christian divorce rate is soaring like those of the people
of the world.
Though people are counting
the birthdays you have celebrated and mocking you that it is too late for you
to get married, but hear me when I say – God’s time is never too late. At the appointed time, you will be married to
the best husband/wife on earth because, everyman a woman and everywoman a man.
Hear what our
father Abraham said in Genesis 24:2-19;
“And
Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he
had. Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh”;
3. And I will make thee swear by the Lord,
the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shall not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the
Canaanites, among whom I dwell. You
can see, Abraham our father does not want his son Isaac to marry a wife from the
Canaanites-you don’t just marry from anywhere. Let’s read on.
4. But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my
kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac. Now let’s look at verse 7 of same Chapter
24.
7.The Lord God of heaven, which took me from
my father’s house, and from the land of my kindred, and which spake unto me,
and that sware unto me, saying, unto thy seed will I give this land; he shall
send his angel before thee, and thou shall take a wife unto my son from thence.
If you follow God’s
direction in getting a wife or a husband, the angels of the Lord will provide
you with your rightful spouse.
Now let’s see again
what the servant of Abraham did in verse 12 of same Chapter 24.
12. And he said, O Lord God of my master
Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my
master Abraham.
13. Behold,
I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city
come out to draw water;
14. And let
it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, let down thy Picher, I
pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, drink, and I will give thy
camels drink also; let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant
Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou has shewed kindness unto my master.
Now, what has this
servant done here? He told God what he
wants and you too can do the same. Call
on the God of Abraham, Isacc and Jacob and ask him for signs in getting a life
partner. As sons and daughters of God,
you don’t just marry anybody, anyhow or from anywhere.
Now in verse
15. And
it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out,
who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham’s brother,
with her Pitcher upon her shoulder.
16. And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a
virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and
filled her Pitcher, and came up
17. And the servant ran to meet her, and said,
let me, I pray thee, drink a little water of thy pitcher.
18. And she said, drink, my lord and she hasted,
and let down her Pitcher upon her hand, and gave him drink
19. And when she had done giving her drink, she
said, I will draw water for thy camels also, until they have done drinking. You
can read the rest of the story from 20 down.
God must confirm his Word if you sincerely ask for His direction not
only in marriage, but in any good thing you desire. This will help you avoid mistakes, waste of
time and resources.
Kenneth E. Hagin of
blessed memory wrote in one of his books titled “Marriage, Divorce and
Remarriage”, that a Christian should marry another Christian. Does a believer
really have any right to marry an unbeliever? A Christian who marries one from the world
marries one from another family – Satan’s family.
Take this bitter truth from me.
It is not everybody that you see in the church that is a true believer. They
may proclaim Christianity, sing in the choir, join the evangelism team, and
even preach in the pulpit as a minister, but they may be far from God. As a
matter of fact, many agent of the devil actually abounds in the church; they’ve
proliferated the churches of God and are working evil. They may be handsome
brothers or beautiful sisters; you can’t know them by their faces or skin
colour except the spirit of God reveals them to you.
Azuka is a son of a
multi millionaire man from Anabara State.
He lives a wayward life of drinking, gambling, stealing, womanizing –
the list goes on. He fell in love with Ada-a
dedicated Christian sister and told her that he wants to marry her but Ada said
to him - I cannot marry you because you don’t know Christ and unless you are
born again. Azuka told Ada that he is ready to accept Christ which he later
did. He followed Ada to the church, gave
his life to Christ after the sermon with tears rolling down his cheeks and
convinced her with his conducts that he was genuinely born again.
Ada believed him
and they got wedded in the church against the counsel of the church leaders. In less than three months, Azuka went back to
his wayward life of drinking, gambling, stealing, womanizing etc. and when Ada
asked him, what are you doing - I thought you have confessed Christ and let go of
the past? He answered her that “marriage is for better
and for worse”. Second
Corinthians 6:14 says, “Be ye not
unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath
righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness”?
Most times, due to
our fleshy nature, we rush into marriage against God’s will for us and the counsel
of our spiritual leaders in the church and rush out again. A broken courtship is better than a
divorce.
We are too much in a
hurry to wait upon the Lord or hear from Him.
We make hasty conclusions that “I
have found him/her whom my soul loveth, I held him/her and will not let go”. Our actions are driven by hallucination
and even when we see signs and
warnings from people that this marriage will not work, we refused to listen
because we are too stiff-necked.
In Genesis 34:2-29. We can see what Jacob’s
sons did to Hamor and his son Shechem for defying their sister even though he
and his father begged to take her for a wife. They deceitfully accepted their proposal and
later dealt with them and took their sister back. They knew who they were, where to marry, who
to marry and they didn’t want their sister to get married to an uncircumcised
Hamor’s son. If you read the whole of that chapter, Hamor was the King of the Hivites
and a very rich man indeed. They owned
the land where Jacob and his entire household lived. Most families today will consent
to giving their daughter in marriage to Hamor’s son who was the heir to his
father’s throne because their daughter will be the queen (Lolo).
A good life partner is a gift
from the Lord. So have faith and hold on to God in prayer because God himself
is the source of perfect will for you in marriage. You can’t do it yourself
because you don’t know the heart of men. The bible says “The heart is deceitful
above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? (Jeremiah 17:9). I don’t know what is in the heart of any man and
I’m sure you don’t know it either. But the Spirit of God knows the heart of
everybody.
Your choice in a spouse is one of the most important
decisions you will ever make and It’s also one of the few that so greatly
impacts the rest of your life. It’s no wonder that people are concerned with
knowing who to marry.
“Knowing who to marry is very important in the quest
of a life
partner – not just kissing every frog
hoping it
will turn to a prince or princess.”
The book “The Other Woman In Marriage” is a touching life stories of alarming
crumbling marriages put together by the author Israel Onoriode Ugbo. It stressed on the followings; 1. Knowing Who
To Marry 2. Protect Your Marriage 3. Strange Women and Men In Marriage 4. How
God Feels About Divorce – the divorce cases on the rise in Africa and the rest
of the world. How Politicians,
celebrities, business moguls, anointed men and women of God are increasingly
divorcing.
It also prepares singles for marriage - Read the book “The
Other Woman In Marriage” on www.okadabooks.com
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